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Hidden Behind a Smile: The Scariest Part About Depression

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“I have to put on a happy face so my friends and family don’t worry about me.” 

“I still can’t believe he was depressed. He was always laughing and smiling!” 

“I can still have a good time with my friends, so what I’m feeling can’t be depression.” 

Depression is a serious mental health condition, but it isn’t always obvious. Some people laugh, socialize, go to work, and maintain the appearance of being “fine” while quietly battling overwhelming sadness, fatigue, or hopelessness. This type of depression—often called smiling depression or high-functioning depression—can be especially dangerous because it goes unnoticed for far too long. 

Learn to Notice the Signs of Silent Struggling

There are many reasons a person might hide depression symptoms. They may feel invalidated by others or guilty for feeling low despite seeming to “have it all together.” They may downplay their emotions or avoid seeking depression therapy out of fear of being misunderstood. In this case, the signs will be more subtle, such as: 

  • Constantly tired despite appearing productive 

  • Using humor to deflect emotional conversations 

  • Overcommitting to avoid being alone with their thoughts 

  • An internal dialogue filled with self-criticism 

  • Feeling disconnected or numb even during joyful moments 

This form of depression often affects the high achievers who feel people rely on them—perfectionists, caregivers, and professionals. But no one should struggle silently. 

How Depression Therapy Helps

Depression therapy creates space to explore what you’re feeling beneath the surface. With the help of a personal therapist, you will: 

  • Name emotions you’ve been suppressing 

  • Identify thought patterns that reinforce isolation 

  • Learn new coping tools to reduce emotional burnout 

  • Reconnect with purpose and pleasure 

So, if someone you know is wearing a mask every day, or if you’re feeling empty behind that smile, it’s time to speak up. Reach out to our practice today to be connected with a therapist who understands depression—both the visible and invisible kinds. 

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Tips for Parents: Talking to Your Teen About Mental Health

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Teens today face overwhelming pressure, from academics and social media to identity struggles and anxiety about the future. It’s no surprise that rates of depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges are on the rise among adolescents. Parents and caregivers play a crucial role in supporting a teen’s emotional well-being, but knowing how to talk about mental health isn’t always easy. Try these tips from top family therapy providers! 

Starting the Mental Health Conversation With Your Teen

Understand that this is a difficult topic to talk about, especially if you’ve never brought it up before. There may be intense feelings involved that can’t be accurately explained. Be patient, and when an opportunity arises… 

  • Pick the right moment – Talk during casual moments like car rides or walks, not in the heat of conflict. 

  • Use open-ended questions – Ask how they’re feeling, what’s been hard lately, or if they’ve felt anxious or down. 

  • Validate, don’t fix – Acknowledge their feelings instead of jumping straight to advice. 

  • Be honest about your own experiences – Normalize mental health struggles by sharing your own stress or therapy journey. 

  • Offer support, not surveillance – Let them know you’re there to help, not judge or monitor. 

It’s okay if your teen doesn’t open up right away. What matters is creating a safe space where they know you’re ready to listen whenever they are. 

How Family Therapy Can Help

You don’t have to figure it out alone. Resources like family therapy or parent-child therapy can provide guidance for approaching emotionally charged conversations. Furthermore, a specialized teen therapist can help you and your child improve communication, build trust, and develop coping strategies for everyone involved. At our practice, we often help families like yours with adolescent struggles. If you’re concerned about your teen’s mental health, reach out today to speak with a family therapist experienced in teen therapy. 

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How to Begin Healing After Personal Trauma

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No one is ever prepared for a tragedy. In fact, most of us go through our lives believing that tragedies happen to other people.

When people do experience a distressing or life-threatening event, such as a car accident, natural disaster, or terrorist attack, they often develop extreme anxiety or PTSD. Many develop ongoing problems with their personal relationships and their own self-esteem.

Everyone deals with trauma in their own way. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to respond to a tragic or terrifying event. Don’t let anyone, not even yourself, tell you that you should respond in a certain way.

Having said that, there are steps you can take to begin to heal and regain control of your life.

Accept Your Feelings

Ignoring your feelings of fear, shock, rage, terror, confusion, or guilt will only slow your recovery. In the moment, you may feel you must avoid your emotions. But, whether you accept or push them away, your feelings are real, and feeling them is necessary for healing. The good news is, even intense feelings will pass if you simply allow yourself to feel them.

Reframe Your Identity

After experiencing a traumatic event, it is common to feel helpless and out of control. To fully recover from the event, it is important that you eventually reframe your identity and challenge your feelings of helplessness. You can do this by taking action. Being proactive – even in small ways – will help you overcome feelings of fear and helplessness.

Consider volunteering for a cause that’s important to you. If that is too much of a time commitment, you could simply focus on helping a friend or neighbor. This will help you feel more powerful and in control of your environment.

Reach Out to Others

It is common for people to want to withdraw from loved ones and social activities following a tragic event, but connecting with others is necessary for recovery. Though you may not feel up to taking part in huge gatherings like you once did, a simple face to face conversation with a close friend or relative can trigger hormones that relieve stress.

You needn’t talk about the event with your loved ones, just simply spending time with them will help you feel more “normal.” Of course, if you feel like you need to talk about your feelings, reach out to those you know love and support you. You may also want to look into support groups in your local area so you can be around others who know what you are going through.

And finally, you may want to consider seeking guidance from a professional therapist who is trained in helping people who have experienced a traumatic event. They can help you navigate your emotions as well as give you tools to get back on your feet.

If you have experienced a traumatic event and feel you could use some guidance on your journey back toward peace and joy, please get in touch with me. You don’t have to suffer with your burden alone.

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4 Ways to Improve Self Esteem When You Have Depression

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Depression and low self-esteem are two sides of the same coin. While low self-esteem leaves people vulnerable to depression, depression can absolutely destroy self-esteem.

But, though low self-esteem may be deeply rooted, there are things you can do to improve it, even if you are suffering from depression.

1. Start Your Day with Positivity

It’s important you start each day positively. Doing so will help your mind to habitually recognize good, especially the good in yourself. So, surround yourself with positivity in the form of music, books, calendars, computer wallpaper, etc. You can even sign up to a service that will send you funny memes or cute animal videos each day. Feeling good at the beginning of the day will set a tone and help you be positive throughout.

2. Analyze and Correct Negative Thinking

Negative thinking is the catalyst for both low self-esteem and depression. The more one thinks negatively, the less able they are to see themselves and the world around them in an accurate light. Soon, the negative thoughts are on a loop like an old record that keeps skipping, causing the same lyric to play over and over again.

The first thing that is needed is the ability to analyze your own thoughts. When a self-critical thought occurs, ask yourself three questions:

  • Is there any evidence to support this thinking?
  • Would people that know me say that my thought is true?
  • Does having this thought make me feel good or bad about myself?

Once you realize there is no evidence to support your thought, that your friends and family would disagree with your thought, and that your thought makes you feel bad about yourself, it’s time to replace that thought. Not with a vague affirmation, but with factual and meaningful self-statements.

For example, perhaps you have taken on a project at work, and currently you find yourself feeling overwhelmed. Your thoughts may currently sound like, “Why did I say I could handle this? I never finish things on time.” You will now replace that thought with a positive factual thought, something simple like, “I’m doing better at this job everyday and am continuing to make progress.”

A healthy self-esteem is not about being perfect or thinking you’re perfect when you’re not. No one is. A healthy self-esteem is about acknowledging your strengths and accepting your weaknesses and realizing you’re like everyone else – human and beautifully flawed.

3. Treat Yourself Well

Though you may feel you don’t deserve it, by treating yourself, you will send positive messages to your subconscious mind that you ARE worth it. Consider taking yourself out to a nice lunch, buy yourself that sweater you’ve been eyeing, or go get a relaxing massage. You don’t even have to spend money; show yourself you’re worth it by spending time reading a book, going for a walk in nature, or doing anything that inspires you.

4. Seek Positive Support

You want to surround yourself with people who celebrate your strengths, not your weaknesses. This can include seeking the positive support of a therapist who can work with you on analyzing and replacing negative thought patterns. When we don’t have an accurate self-perception, it can help to get a new perspective from an objective third party.

Increasing your self-esteem isn’t easy, but if you practice these tips, you will be able to chip away at the negative self-talk every day.

Need help with your self-esteem? If you or a loved one is interested in exploring treatment, please contact me today. I would be happy to speak with you about how I may be able to help. 

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How Spring Cleaning Can Improve Your Mental Health

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As spring approaches, you might have the urge to thoroughly clean your home. Known as “spring cleaning,” this ritual commonly involves getting rid of items you no longer need and paying attention to areas that you often miss during regular cleaning sessions (for example, your baseboards, grout, and window treatments).

Spring cleaning offers numerous physical benefits—in addition to providing a workout, it can help rid your home of dust, mildew, pet dander, pollen, and pollutants. But did you know that spring cleaning can also improve your mental health? Here’s how:

  • It helps you focus. When the environment around you is chaotic, it can make it difficult for you to focus on tasks (which can be especially frustrating if you work from home). By removing clutter and organizing your belongings, you’ll be making it easier for yourself to concentrate.
  • It reduces stress. If you’ve had certain tasks on your to-do list for quite a while, constantly seeing reminders of them not being done can raise your stress levels. Once you check those items off your list, it will make it easier for you to relax at home.
  • It helps you sleep. If your spring cleaning routine includes washing your bedding, vacuuming your mattress, and organizing your dressers and nightstands, it can make it easier for you to get a good night’s rest, which can in turn boost your mood and help you focus and remember things.

Speak to a Therapist

While spring cleaning can often be a great first step to take toward improving your mental health, sometimes you need some extra help. An experienced therapist—like the ones at our practice—can help you address any areas in which you’re struggling and achieve a better quality of life overall. Contact us today to schedule a consultation with one of the caring providers on our team.

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When Is It Time to See a Therapist About Your Mental Health?

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Recognizing when it’s time to seek therapy can be difficult. Sometimes, we downplay our struggles or convince ourselves we should just deal with it. Maybe we’re constantly comparing ourselves to others and thinking, “We don’t have it that bad!” But the fact of the matter is that if your mental health is affecting your relationships, work, or daily functioning, it might be time to talk to a professional. 

Therapy Exists to Help People Like You 

Therapy isn’t only for times of crisis. It’s a powerful space for personal growth, emotional maintenance, and healing when necessary. You can turn to a therapist for support if: 

  • You feel overwhelmed by anxiety, sadness, or irritability 

  • You’re withdrawing from relationships or losing interest in things you once enjoyed 

  • You’re struggling to manage stress, sleep, or emotions 

  • You’ve experienced a loss or trauma that you haven’t fully processed 

  • You just want to better understand yourself or work on personal development 

No problem is “too small” for therapy. If something is weighing on your mind, whatever that may be, a therapist can help you unpack it with care and nonjudgment. 

Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late 

Many people say they waited too long to seek support, but you don’t have to. Mental health providers offer a collaborative space to explore challenges and develop new tools for coping. Whether you’re navigating a specific issue or just need space to talk, compassionate support is available. Take that first step today by reaching out for a consultation

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Dating After Divorce: Tips for Moving On After Your Breakup

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If you’ve gone through a divorce, you’re not alone. According to statistics published by Forbes, about half of first marriages end in divorce, and divorce rates are even higher in second and third marriages.

It’s important to not rush back into dating after a divorce. Separating from your spouse can be extremely difficult, and you’ll need to take time to process your emotions, rediscover yourself, and think about what you want in your next relationship. Once you’re ready to enter the dating world again, remember the following tips:

  • Try dating apps. If it’s been a while since you got married, you may not have any experience using dating apps and websites, and you might be hesitant to embrace this new technology. But don’t discount it—these services could make it easier for you to meet someone new. Or, consider joining a class or attending a community event.
  • Be honest. While you don’t need to divulge every detail of what led to your divorce, don’t purposefully keep things from a potential partner. Let them know that you’re divorced and what you’re looking for in a new relationship. Trust is an essential component of any relationship, and you don’t want to build your next one based on lies.
  • Wait to introduce your children. If you and your ex-spouse share children, you may be excited to have them meet your new partner, but it’s important to not rush these introductions. Wait until you’ve gotten to know your new partner well and you’re sure that you want to be with them long-term.

Need to Talk to Someone?

Moving on after a divorce can be very difficult, and many people in this position find it beneficial to speak with a therapist. The experienced providers at our practice can help you navigate through any issues you’re currently experiencing and move into the next chapter of your life. Contact us today to request an appointment—we’ll be happy to schedule a session at a date and time that’s convenient for you.

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6 Grounding Techniques to Manage Panic Attacks in the Moment

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A sudden sensation of dread stops you in your tracks. Your heart races even though you’re standing still. Your breathing quickens. You may feel like you’re losing control or experiencing a medical emergency. The terror is all-encompassing. 

Panic attacks come on suddenly. While they are frightening, they are not life-threatening, and some techniques can help you find calm in that moment. Grounding works by shifting your focus away from fearful thoughts and back to the present. These tools reduce the intensity of panic attacks and provide a sense of safety. 

6 Grounding Techniques You Can Use Anywhere 

Here are six grounding techniques you can use to center yourself. Don’t knock ‘em ‘til you’ve tried them! 

  1. 5-4-3-2-1 Technique – Identify 5 things you see, 4 you can touch, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, and 1 you taste. 

  2. Cold Water Reset – Splash cold water on your face or hold an ice cube to shift your brain’s focus. 

  3. Name and Describe Objects – Pick an object and describe it in detail to yourself: color, texture, shape. 

  4. Breathing Pattern Practice – Try box breathing: inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, and repeat until you feel calmer. 

  5. Hold a Grounding Object – Carry a stone, coin, or fidget tool that you can fiddle with during moments of stress. 

  6. Move Your Body – Gently stretch or walk to release physical tension and calm your nervous system. 

While grounding techniques are powerful, they’re not a substitute for ongoing care. Therapy can uncover what’s triggering your panic attacks and teach you lasting strategies to reduce their frequency and severity. Many people find relief through cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), exposure therapy, or mindfulness-based practices. 

You Deserve Peace 

You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Reach out today to start making progress with a therapist who specializes in panic attacks and anxiety recovery. Relief is within reach! 

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Coping With Stress: Tips for Working Professionals in the Modern Age

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In today’s hyper-connected world, stress has become an almost constant companion for working professionals. Emails don’t stop after hours, deadlines seem never-ending, and work-life balance has begun to feel more like a myth than a goal. Over time, chronic stress can affect not just productivity, but physical health, relationships, and emotional well-being. So if you’re feeling the pressure, it’s time to hook yourself up with professional support. 

Effective Stress Management for Working Adults 

It’s easy to normalize high stress levels when they’re part of the daily grind. But when stress interferes with your sleep, mood, or ability to enjoy life, that’s no good. Luckily, certain small, consistent changes can make a big difference. Some effective stress management strategies for professionals include: 

  • Setting firm work-life boundaries and unplugging during personal time 

  • Practicing deep breathing, mindfulness, or guided meditation 

  • Prioritizing physical activity to release tension and boost energy 

  • Taking regular breaks during the workday to reset your focus 

  • Talking to a therapist to identify stress triggers and build resilience 

You don’t have to wait until burnout hits—support is available to help you regain balance before stress becomes overwhelming. Therapy offers a space to examine your habits, thought patterns, and emotional responses to pressure. Give it a try! 

Individual Therapy for Stress Done Right 

Whether you’re navigating leadership roles, remote work challenges, or simply juggling too much, therapy can help you regain clarity and calm—one session at a time. Get started today by scheduling your first! Our compassionate providers understand the demands of professional life and tailor treatment to fit your lifestyle.

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Journal Prompts to Start Healing From Depression

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Healing from depression can feel overwhelming, especially if professional support isn’t accessible. While therapy is a powerful resource, not everyone has the time or money to dedicate to this form of healing. On the other hand, journaling is a free and effective tool to begin understanding and expressing your thoughts. Writing prompts around depression can help you bypass the mental fog you’re dealing with and focus on healing. 

Do You Need to Be a Writer to Benefit From Journaling? 

You don’t need to be a writer to benefit! Simply engaging with thoughtful journal prompts daily or weekly can start shifting your mindset and clarifying your emotions when things get tough. Here are a few prompts to help you get started: 

  1. “What would I say to a friend who felt like I do right now?” 

  2. “What does my depression need me to know today?” 

  3. “What used to bring me joy, and how might I reconnect with it?” 

  4. “What thoughts have been weighing on me the most this week?” 

  5. “How would I like to feel three months from now?” 

Journaling can become an empowering routine that supports awareness and emotional release, especially during hard moments when connection feels distant. Use these prompts as a safe space to explore your inner world when bad feelings creep up. 

Go a Step Further With Depression Therapy 

Working with a mental health provider adds structure and insight to your healing journey. If you’re ready to go deeper, therapy can help uncover the root causes of your depression and offer you tools to create lasting change. Our team is here to support your comfort and growth—reach out to begin your path forward with depression therapy. 

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